To the Man I Love

I was at a friends birthday party and a couple of our friends were talking about which one of my blogs was their favorite. They referred to an old blog titled, "Men Are the Best Things Walking Planet Earth." We laughed as they said that was the last good blog I wrote about men, That is so not true but I see where they're coming from. Most of my  blogs deal with how men wrongfully deal with women and my godly advice on how to get over being wronged. I rarely brag about the good men of the world who are faithful, dependable, and trustworthy. Today, I want to give kudos to the men that take care of their responsibilities, and who exemplify love. Now, lets keep it real, there is a large majority of women who complain about the lack of good men in the world and I cater to those women. Today, instead of giving you hope after heartbreak,I am giving you ladies and gents a different kind of hope. There are plenty of good men out there ladies, and men if you're reading and you know you're a good man keep up the good work! I notice you!

In my most recent dating experience, I've seen my pursuer have many of the qualities below. He has not been perfect, (what man is?) but he has a good heart that is definitely worth appreciating.So, I am not trying to paint you a Disney character dream guy with my list below, I am just pointing out the best qualities in good men. The men who we see put in the effort and consistency. My list consist of good qualities in men I've seen in various dating relationships, things friends and family have said they love about their men and the top qualities I think we all agree on make us fall in love with our guy.

Good men here is a list of  things we love about you:

  • Strength
  •  Hard work
  • Consistency
  • Spirituality 
  • The way you pursue
  • Faithfulness
  • Humor
  • Playfulness
  • Resistance to growing up/youthfulness( lol)
  •  Logic -you are a lot less emotional with your decision making which is a good balance for those of who are super emotional in relationships
  •  Interesting hobbies ; sports, WWE, culinary, photography,gaming etc.
  • Smell (cologne)
  • The way you walk
  • How you entertain your friends
  • How your so into us
  • Your love for our cooking

The reason I have such hope in men, is because  I have a good father. He is consistent , dependable, supportive, and loving. I can't remember a time he has let me down and this has provided me with a trust that really secured me as a woman. My dads good godly example and my understanding of what a loving father God is has shaped me and my view of men. His example was a guide for how I date and even a template for the types of men I surround myself around as friends. I expect a certain level of treatment and respect. Many of my male friends have qualities like my dad. They are great guys and even better men in my eyes because they spoil the heck out of me.  A good dad gave me a good optimistic perspective on men that leaves me hopeful and with a positive outlook. I haven't dated a bunch of losers so I am not tainted by a ton of poor experiences.  I trust God that no matter what society looks like, there is a good man who will marry me and he will be Gods best.   We need you GOOD men to stay the course and raise your sons to be good men like you!

If you are a good man "in the making", meaning you only have about two or three of the qualities on my list STEP UP BABY. You are aware of your weaknesses..  just make a decision to grow! If you didn't see good examples of godly men  and you're only teacher has been television or music REWIRE you're brain! Unless your role model is Bill Cosby on his family show, Barack Obama, or someone else outstanding with high morals, most of the male figures in popular media are not the best examples to model yourself after. You've got to surround yourself with upstanding men and read your word. The word of God and the men defined within its pages gives you the best model for being the man God desires you to be. The bible allows you to be strengthened with what you need to reach your full potential. You will be blessed and those around you will be blessed.


Men I speak these blessings over your life .. 


Ist Corinthians 16:13-14 Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love.


Psalms 119:9-16

How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your word. With my whole heart I seek you; let me not wander from your commandments! I have stored up your word in my heart, that I might not sin against you. Blessed are you, O Lord; teach me your statutes! With my lips I declare all the rules of your mouth. ...




Psalms 112:1-10

Praise the Lord! Blessed is the man who fears the Lord, who greatly delights in his commandments! His offspring will be mighty in the land; the generation of the upright will be blessed. Wealth and riches are in his house, and his righteousness endures forever. Light dawns in the darkness for the upright; he is gracious, merciful, and righteous. It is well with the man who deals generously and lends; who conducts his affairs with justice. ...




Love You , Mean it!

P.S hey boo <3