Love is NOT enough
I was talking to my sister in the car and she said, girl in a relationship love aint enough. It seems like at this age Tina Turners song “Whats Love Got to Do With It”, means more than ever. Really is love between two people all it takes to make a relationship work? Many people would say no. Being in love is nice but without the work, being "in love" means nothing. You know faith without works is dead.
How can you expect the fruit of love to grow if a relationship is never watered? I used to tell my boyfriend this all of the time. Just because we’re in love (emotionally attached) doesn't mean the work is over. As a woman there is a plethora of things I expect my man to do in order to make me feel loved because I am complicated. Haha! I know I am but I also understand that I am worth it and he’s got to realize that. The best things in life usually take work to get. Duh! I also cant expect to be the only one receiving love I've got to do some work as well and actively love.
Have you ever picked a diamond off of a tree outside of your house? No they aren't as easy accessible or valuable as what you can pick off a tree outside of your house. You know what is easy to pick, everywhere? Leaves. No one cares about leaves. Why? They are not rare or sparkly. We rake them, burn them, and can’t wait for them to all blow away in the spring. How do people search for diamonds? They tear up the earth looking for them. Millions of dollars are spent trying to excavate them out of the ground. People spend tons of money on them and there are jewelers who spend their life devoted to this profitable business.
My point is, be like the diamond. Have a standard that sets you apart from the rest. You are the prize. Its not enough for someone to love you they need to put in the work to get you and keep you. If they see the value in you they will do whatever it takes to get you and keep you around. Love yourself enough to demand that.
Let me break down what I mean when I say love isn't enough.
True love requires action.
Example number one; John 3:16 For God so Loved the world he GAVE his only sons..
Jesus sacrificed for love.
I Corinthians 13 describes the actions of love being patience, kindness, self control etc.
Love is NOT just a feeling.
Love takes time, effort, responsibility.
The bible even commands husbands to love their wives like Christ loved and died for the church. Whoa! My man should never complain when I ask for a bite of his food lol That's small, in comparison to the beautiful love Christ showed us.
SOooooo, if you love someone show it! If the one you love has a particular love language learn it. If you need more love express it, kindly. I don’t care if you’ve never seen a healthy loving relationship or never practiced it before start today! Do the opposite of what you’ve seen if it was negative and make the choice to be better than the misconstrued depictions of love displayed in the media.